Commandment #1: Stay in the Here and Now When dating it is very important to concentrate on the experience of being with the person.You should not let your mind wander into thinking about past relationships, or future possibilities.
Even the best of marriages and the most compatible people experience serious and difficult challenges over the years.The biblical narrative of the revelation at Sinai begins in Exodus 19 after the arrival of the children of Israel at Mount Sinai (also called Horeb).On the morning of the third day of their encampment, "there were thunders and lightnings, and a thick cloud upon the mount, and the voice of the trumpet exceeding loud", and the people assembled at the base of the mount.The dilemma is how can you tell if you are being wise and prudent or picky and selfish?
We therefore thought it might be helpful to suggest commandments for dating, and this chapter is our attempt to distill some of the concepts we have developed about relationships into useful guidelines.
Many people have heard of and benefited from Rabbi Avigdor Miller's "Ten Commandments of Marriage." Rabbi Avigdor Miller's commandments focussed on loyalty to one's spouse, and making every effort to avoid cycles of hurt and resentment. After all, why be loyal to someone who you may not marry?