Your circle of trust gets more important as you get older and as you must cope with the changes and anxieties that aging involves. Address conflict in a spirit of love A successful relationship requires successful conflict.
For emotional safety to exist, you need to feel that your partner truly hears you, sees you, and accepts you as you are and that he or she wants the best for you. Approach every disagreement with your partner with the intention to listen fully and respond in a spirit of love.
It’s important to try and give friends and family the benefit of the doubt when it comes to secret relationships.
Even if you think they may be angry or disappointed, it is better to give people the benefit of the doubt.
If you find yourself not giving very much, or feeling resentful of how much you give and how little you receive back, you may be in an unequal relationship where one side is taking more than they are giving.
For instance, couples sometimes mistakenly believe that “love” will help them deal with any issue that comes up, and that if the other person truly loved you, they would just do as you ask.
When you know someone has your back, it gives you tremendous security and frees you from chronic thoughts of doubt and uncertainty that can otherwise plague relationships. Sometimes you want to get back at your partner because he or she has hurt you.
Can you not imagine your friends and family being happy for you?
There have been a thousand or more articles written about how to have a successful long-term relationship or marriage, but none that seem to capture some of the core ingredients I’ve found important in relationships. Before I begin, however, it’s important to dispel a common relationship myth — relationships are (or should be) easy. The grass always looks greener in other people’s lives, because few people share the truth of the amount of work that goes into relationships (hence why 50% of marriages end in divorce).
Relationships — even the best relationships in the world — require constant attention, nurturing, and work.
Most of us know what they are (even if we forget to practice them!
), such as listening to one another, laughing together, using humor (especially during arguments), having regular sex, going on dates and so on.But people are independent with their own unique needs and personalities.