In my eighteen years of leading divorce recovery ministry I’ve observed men and women of various ages transition back into dating.
After scrutinizing both their wise and foolish choices I believe the following “dos” and “don’ts” to be helpful. Even though you may “feel” divorced, the truth is married people don’t date.
You can back off, take your time, and still make progress in the relationship.
And if and when you marry, you will be glad you waited. I’m on a campaign for myself and other wives in 2016 to memorize more scripture, because this is one of the best ways to arm ourselves with truth. Is staying pure until marriage impossible these days? Actually, Jacob waited for Rachel for seven years (see Genesis 29).
I should have relationships and sex all figured out by now right? Now that is exposed, I want to tell you where I am now and seek some prayerful wisdom.
After all I am over half a century old with an adult son and a daughter in High School. Some advisers tell me that I need to wait until I am dead, well almost dead to start dating again.
This is even an order of magnitude greater in my opinion for divorcees my age. It can feel like time-traveling back to high school (or junior high for some of you). Remind yourself that you want to be faithful to God’s design for sexual intimacy, that you want to show respect and care for the woman you are dating, and that waiting has true benefits.
Dinner provided the opportunity for conversation while the movie helped the couple relax as their attention was directed at the big screen rather than each other.
A traditional date like this serves a purpose but can trap you into a uncomfortable situation […] Dating over 40 can be a blast and very rewarding if you willing to listen to some dating advice after divorce.
I've sought God's will for a long time but have chosen my path over his more times than I'd like to admit.
I have continued seeking him and have started questioning the motives that drive what I do; I desire him to be the center of my life.We have a great relationship and I look forward to growing old with her.