After all, some stats reveal that in marriages where one person is depressed, the divorce rate is nine times higher.And if one person is bipolar, the divorce rate can be 90 percent, Stephanie Buehler, Psy D, a psychologist and sex therapist, tells Yahoo Health." data-reactid="22"Bruni, 50, is just one of the 42.5 million Americans (about one in five people in this country) with mental illness, including depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, and schizophrenia.“Rejection is a two-way street, and I rejected plenty of guys online and in person, too.”one in five people in this country) with mental illness, including depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, and schizophrenia.And while dating is a minefield already, doing so with a mental condition requires a serious dedication to honesty, communication, and — like Bruni says — an open mind.
Many love addicts who still have a person of addiction (Po A) on their brain long after the relationship has ended (this is a torchbearer, by the way) do so not because they still love them or think they will get back together, but as a form of protection.
You may even fantasize about the hot guy or girl at the office who gave you a “look.” But when it really comes down to it, and the question gets popped (), some of us are simply not ready, emotionally, mentally or physcially. You know when the idea of dating doesn’t scare the hell out of you to the point where you simply cannot make the date, when it sounds “scary” but exciting too, when you don’t curl up into a ball and start crying hysterically after a first date because all you can think about is your ex, when you start to feel comfortable around strangers (not 100% but enough to have the courage to do so), and when being alone is not a bad thing, but you’re ready for something new…
In this latter case, the person is not ready to date. And while a date may have elements of all those things IF there’s chemistry and attraction, don’t get too hung up on the chemistry and attraction. Someone finds you physically attractive (or you find them physically attractive, or both), and they want to get to know you a bit more. It might be fun but it might be awkward; it might make you happy, but it might make him never want to call back. Your first date will most likely not look like the fantasy you’ve created in your head. If you go into a date looking for your soulmate, you will probably be sorely disappointed. Because you’re expectations are far too high for an unsuspecting stranger who doesn’t know what you want or need and basically owes you nothing but a little common courtesy–that’s about as much as can be expected on a first date.
(Illustration: Erik Mace for Yahoo Health)Christina Bruni seems to have it all.
She owns her own co-op, has a gym-toned body and striking good looks, and a career as a librarian.
The Internet has become a boon for many love addicts.