Would you want the excitement of running from one woman to the next?
Or would you want that one steady, reliable girl who’s devoted only to you?
Seeing each other more often than that tends to mean you’re more into each other and you’re headed towards something more involved than a fuck-buddy relationship where you’re both enjoying the sex but you’re not interested in anything more.
In fact, if you’ve been finding that you’re seeing each other more and more often lately, that’s often a sign that you’re both becoming more and more interested in one another and invested in your relationship together – a sign that you should consider discussing just where you think the relationship is going. If you’re getting together twice or three times a week on your lunch break, but not spending extended periods of time together, then the DTR conversation can be pushed back in the relationship timeline.
Some prefer to stay monogamous from the start, while others like to keep their options open, just as some view sex as something to be saved until the blossoming of a full-on relationship, while others need it early on to determine levels of chemistry and attraction.
This is usually on a deeper level than thought and may happen even with someone who on paper doesn’t tick all the boxes, but something in you is telling you they are the one. It’s all very well recognising you’ve found the one for you but if they don’t feel the same way then it may lead to heartbreak.
Similarly, a couple that only sees each other in short, intense bursts in between long stretches of non-contact (long-distance relationships and out-of-town hook-ups, for example) is probably going to want to have the DTR sooner – the intensity of that time together, coupled with the length of time spent when you together tends to necessitate making sure everyone is on the same page.