As the pivotal moment approaches, thoughts can become centered on such questions as: "Will he like me? There's no template to follow and we were never taught how to flirt with and date other men. How do two men join together in the "courtship dance?
" While a lack of rules for gay dating can be a positive thing, lending to more creativity, spontaneity, and individuality, it can also create anxiety and a sense of "cluelessness" in how to meet and date successfully--kind of like a car without a driver.
As a shy guy, you likely experience your share of problems with going out there and meeting other men, and you probably feel even greater stress when it comes time to actually ask those men out on a date.
Making it brief takes a lot of the pressure off, especially if you find the two of you aren't compatible, and allows for healthy pacing of your dating relationship.
Sometimes we meet the wrong people, choose a bad venue or fall head over heels with someone who just wants to be friends.
While the common dating ‘rules’ – not that I believe in rules – can apply to anybody, there are perhaps a few things we, as gay guys, need to pay a little more attention to.
There isn’t a whole lot you can do about the fact that you’re a shy guy.
So here's the thing: I don't think I've ever been on an official date with another guy before.
To help you out, here are a few first date tips shy gay men can use to build confidence when and where it counts.