This applies to men as much as women, take the recent internet craze of dad-bods, people celebrating men who were neither super fit or super fat - they were normal and yet you'd have thought no one had seen an average torso before.Similarly, people subconsciously associate bigger women with being lazy and lacking in self-pride and thinner women as being active and more conscious of their appearance. Who doesn't know at least one person who contradicts these stereotypes - a thin friend who lives on junk food or a 'fat' friend who smashes the gym, has great skin, perfect proportions and not an inch of cellulite on her (yes, I know at least three women like this) There is no hard and fast rules to what constitutes being attractive - and whilst Im not suggesting that men should be obligated to find all shapes and sizes attractive, my one golden nuggets of advice to men who write off women before they've met them, be it online, via a blind date or through an agency is grow up a bit when it comes to stats on a piece of paper.The other is a skinny, beautiful physician with a tepid personality (I refer to her as The Vulcan – no offense, sweetie! Both bring out Marc’s insecurities about his income. “The whole time I was having an anxiety attack about what they thought about me and my career,” Marc confided.It should make more sense that he would dig the social worker — who also happens to be tons more fun — right? “I know this makes me sound so shallow, but I’m just not that into her physically. “That really gets into my insecurities about my income — especially in the tri-state area where guys have all these fat wallets,” Marc said without a hint of shame. And if I can’t do that with my money, I want to feel like I can do it physically.When I ran a matchmaking agency, I met a lot of men. Interesting in the respect that, it's surprising how, even those who are actively looking for love, are still so non-negotiable about what they require in a partner.When signing up, I'd meet them for a coffee, get a better understanding of their personalities in order to consider who they'd be best matched with. The usual lists cropped up time and time again, height and income high on the list of requirements for women - for men, age and, you guessed it, weight.
Which is exactly why I prefer men who are larger than me. And who — though I may feign disgust — would take down any surly suitors who get up in my grill.
I mention my friend Marc a lot here — we actually met on OKCupid last summer, went out for BBQ and became fast friends.
His daughter is the same age as my kids, we all went to the beach last week and Marc and I talk on the phone all the time – mostly about dating.
Not because they necessarily, have better bodies (although some of them actually did - bigger but fitter and far more in proportion) but because they what they have. It isn't at the forefront of their mind or something they consider to be a hinderance in life. Big girls don't make trophy wives - or so the media would have us believe.
Not only does this make them sexy but it makes my heart weep for every guy (lonely, I'll add - you don't join a dating agency if you're not looking for someone to fill an emotional gap) who'd joined up, entrusted (and paying) somebody else to find them love to then turned a person down, before they'd even met them, based on their weight. Our society is also all about extremes - people are either fat or thin and people - men, in this case, struggle to imagine anything in-between - there is no normal or middle ground when you are being read out the stats of another person only labels that define you as a type of person.On Woo Plus App, you can share your amazing moments with BBWs, BHMs in any city.