Here’s the problem: Simply put, men and women have two of their highest and deepest needs in absolute, total and direct conflict.
As a result, it creates a real disconnect from the very beginning stages of their relationship..exact time when their relationship lacks the stability or trust to compensate for the challenges. The long-term effect of this one mistake often causes women to stack disappointment and heartbreak until eventually they begin to demonize men, or even worse, question their own value and worth.
No one doubts that the rules have changed when it comes to dating, but over the years, a few things have managed to stay exactly the same.
Being authentic versus trying to be someone you think you should be is always the safest bet. Taking too much air time on the first few dates explaining to him why you don't need a man in your life.
Simply put, if she connects with a man and he can leave, she is anything but safe and far too vulnerable for comfort.
That means her need for certainty requires her to DEFINE the relationship..about it...figure out where they are..limitations...insure exclusivity..this is where the problem lies. One of masculine energy’s deepest values is FREEDOM.
In fact, there’s something in the psyche of nearly every man that the whole notion of freedom just stirs his soul and calls out the hero within.
Albert Einstein said, “Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.” This seems especially true when it comes to dating.
You may accidentally call your date Bob when his name is Bill.It is natural to want to know as much as you can about your date: his tastes, experiences, career, and hobbies. A little awareness can help ensure that yours won’t be so big as to rule out future dates.