Laura Brashier with her cats Sunny, left, and Jenny at her Rancho Santa Margarita home. How do you tell someone who might be The One that there’s no possibility of going all the way? Brashier, a hair stylist from Rancho Santa Margarita, has started a dating website for people in her situation — people who are physically unable to have sexual intercourse or just want to abstain from it, whether it’s because of an illness or injury or religious reasons. In other words, it’s just like any other dating site. “A lot of people have resigned themselves to being alone,” Brashier said.
The animal lover is looking for someone to share her life with. Laura Brashier remembers the last time she dated someone. Even without sex, people long for meaningful relationships.
“It’s about finding someone to share your sacred space with, to have someone in your life where it’s you against the world.” Take a step inside her condo and you see what Brashier (pronounced “brah-SHAY”) means when she says stuff like “sacred space.” It’s cluttered yet cozy, filled with warm, dark colors and antique-looking picture frames and vintage furnishings, including an auburn lamp with black feathers. Brashier’s relentless optimism and spunk served her when during the darkest time of her life, beginning in 1998 when she was diagnosed with Stage 4 cervical cancer at age 37.
She underwent a brutal combination of chemotherapy and radiation that left her so tired she couldn’t walk or speak. The exes were great, came over to help, but luckily, her mother came to live with her to take care of her day to day.
But during their whole time together, she dreaded finding a way to tell him her secret. It invites users to input details about themselves, look for others with similar interests, and be found by them.
Sex was important, but that was not the most important thing between us… Feeling loved by another man has helped me being more self-confident.Other visitors to the site might just want someone to go to the movies with or a dinner party.