I'm seeing a person who a) is a photographer and b) lives in a different country and c) is far more visual than me. I'm now relearning intimacy through a whole new medium. It's not like being right there with someone, but it also doesn't let your imagination run wild like phone sex or sending dirty emails; it's some whole new thing, with its own drawbacks and its own distinct pleasures. Skype sex is like watching porn that stars a person who (hopefully) you know for real, who's aware that you're watching them.I'm still figuring it all out, but here are a few tips I've learned from my foray into this brave new world of e-humping. It's like porn you direct and co-star in, which is both exciting and nerve-wracking.
This is where adult video dating and personals come into play.
But I recently started having semi-regular Skype sex, and realized that I hadn't felt this sexually inept since I was a terrified teenager.
I've had a wealth of sexual experience, and learned many wonderful and terrible things from many wonderful and terrible people.
When I brought up the point of how these photos could be out in the world for anyone to see and could affect her future jobs, etc., she said that it was illegal to discriminate and that anyone who would judge her, should they see the photos, was judgmental and she wouldn't want much to do with them.
I feel participating in a site like this is dangerous, damaging to self-esteem, objectifies women, etc.
Needless to say, I was extremely disturbed, and scared for her.